John's Birth
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posted 2007 August 4, cbd
written 2007 May 23, cbd
My sister asked me about the story of
John's birth. This was my reply.
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We have always thought that the girls looked like Duncans and John
looked more like an Owens but there are some crossover features, of
course. Since we've always said this, we're not really fresh,
unbiased, but knowledgeable viewers, like you are.
Yes, he is cuter and much more popular than I was at his age. His
life, home, and environment have been so different from mine that there
is little to compare.
John was the only one of us (conceived and) born in California.
(The rest, Texas, of course, though only Viann and I remember Texas as
home.) The pregnancies and deliveries of the girls were very
"easy," normal, and fast. Viann was in labor with Viannah for
five hours and with Katy for six. The doctor didn't make it to
the hospital for Katy, she was delivered by an Ob. nurse.
John was different. His natural due date was Sept. 7 (1990) but
in May at a regular Ob. doctor visit, they did a sonogram and
discovered that he was "placenta previa." Apparently the placenta
can attach itself anyplace on the uterus and if it attaches partly
covering the cervix (the opening), then you have a problem. Viann
was put on enforced bed rest for the rest of the pregnancy and a
C-section delivery was tentatively scheduled for August 31, one week
before the due date, so as to avoid labor.
Enforced bed rest meant not getting up for anything except going to the
bathroom and going to the doctor. (Lazy doctors!)
So we had a routine checkup on August 7. Viann had already given
two units of blood "autologously", that is, for herself, knowing that
there would be blood loss in the surgery. They did an ultra-sound
that day and mashed her tummy around a lot, as usual. Things
looked OK. Another appointment was made.
Bending the rules slightly, we went to lunch on the way back
home. Joselitos, a Mexican place about a mile away.
At the end of lunch, while I was paying actually, Viann started gushing
blood in the restroom. She walked out to the car dripping all the
way. This was the symptom that the placenta, or part of it, had
broken loose and it might be an emergency. We drove straight back
to the emergency room where I ran over and broke the headstone on the
parking place. She walked in on her own. It was tense for a
few minutes while they looked for the baby's heartbeat. If they
hadn't found it they would have operated immediately right there, but
they finally did. Things were stable, so they could call the
regular doctor (who was at lunch himself, of course) and do the
delivery in the normal way a couple of hours later. The placenta
was only partially detached. The baby was still getting enough
oxygen.
I arranged for the girls to go home with my boss's wife and went in
with Viann, as I had for the other deliveries. It was the usual
thing. "You can be there but you have to stay out of the way and
if you faint we're just going to walk over you to take care of mother
and child until we have time to deal with you." They brought me a
"dad pack," the stuff I was supposed to wear, use, etc. Viannah,
waiting to be picked up said, "What about 'kid packs?'" She
wanted to go in too!
Everything from there was "routine" for a C-Section. Viann had an
"epidural" which means being awake but not being able to feel anything
below the waste. They cut her open and pulled the baby out feet
first. This is the image we both remember, little feet sticking
out of the incision. He was "perfect," with Apgar 5-9, the first
number being lower because he was born asleep. Babies who are
squeezed through the birth canal aren't born asleep and don't have
round heads when they come out, but John did. It was much later
that day, or maybe the next, when we had the repose to talk about a
name. It was going to be either Peter Henry or John
Courtney. I looked at him and said, "He doesn't look like Peter
to me," so he's John.
Viann lost seven units of blood, much of it in the car I think. I
went home that evening and ran the car seat covers through the washing
machine several times, bright red water each time. It was
lumpy. It was a huge mess. Back at the hospital they gave
her her two blood units and two other general blood bank units.
There were some issues with getting everything in her abdomen pushed
back into the right place; she was in the hospital three days.
John was evaluated and found to be ready to be born, but just
barely. The lungs were fully formed and ready for breathing, but
only right then. This is about as premature as you can be without
significant complications requiring extended hospitalization. He
was 6 lbs. even, half an once heavier than I was. That's also the
threshold for premies.
Interesting. It never occurred to me to put something like this
on my website. I'll think about it.
It's also interesting, we were just reading over some of the medical
charts from this the other day trying to fill out forms for an
educational consultant we've hired to find out why he's not doing well
in school and figure out how to improve things. They want to know
the entire history, back to birth. Reading all this about blood
and gore out loud, finally after eight or ten minutes, John says, "too
much information!"